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Meghan Markle’s private letter to her dad — and Mail lawsuit — highlight a cruel tabloid critique

When Prince Harry released a statement Tuesday announcing that he and his wife, Meghan, were suing the Mail on Sunday over the publication of a private letter the Duchess of Sussex had sent to her estranged father, the British press was divided. While some journalistic quarters have accused the prince of being “sanctimonious” and “playing the victim card,” others have defended the right of the Sussexes to protect their privacy.

But whatever you think of the lawsuit, it’s clear that public opinion has never really been on Meghan’s side. Indeed, ever since Harry and Meghan announced their engagement in November 2017, the American actress-turned-duchess has faced a constant barrage of criticism in the British press and from much of the British public. There have been stories about feuds with Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, reports of diva-like behavior in the run-up to her wedding, accusations of hypocrisy and profligacy. But it is the estrangement from her father, Thomas Markle, which has attracted much press attention, and which has been the cause of substantial criticism toward her.

Culturally in the United Kingdom, the “family is family” refrain still has incredible potency. No matter how toxic the relationship, or how damaged the parent, plenty of people still believe that you should stick by your relatives whatever the cost to your personal well-being. In a 2015 survey out of the University of Cambridge, 68 percent of U.K. respondents said there was social stigma around family estrangement, and that they had felt judged for contradicting societal expectations after cutting off contact with a family member.

Meghan’s acrimonious relationship with her dad — as well as with other members of her wider family — is a public rift many British people find distasteful, as the commentary in many newspaper articles attests, not to mention social media. It is an affront to so-called traditional family values, and neglects the Biblical commandment to “honor thy father and thy mother;” indeed, in today’s Daily Mail, Piers Morgan accuses Meghan and Harry of being “heartless” in the way they’ve “banished” Thomas Markle from their lives. Whatever the private context for the rift between Meghan and her father — and none of us know what that context is — it is invariably Meghan who bears the brunt of the blame.

This specific criticism hits a very personal nerve with me. When I became estranged from my father 25 years ago, I was the recipient of similar judgmental attitudes. You only have one father, people used to tell me, as though perhaps I might have forgotten. It was, in fact, a truth of which I was painfully aware: I only had one father, and mine — an aggressive alcoholic — hadn’t lived up to the task.

As anyone who has ever become estranged from a family member knows — and there are, statistically, plenty of us out there — the decision is never taken lightly. To become estranged from a family member is like a slow, gradual death. It rarely happens overnight. It’s very rarely the result of a single incident. More often, it’s a buildup over time — often years — of toxic behavior, until self-preservation demands you distance yourself from it.

For years, I thought I was unusual in having such a significant estrangement in my life. But when I started writing and researching a novel about family estrangement — in which a mother is desperate to reunite her two adult daughters after three decades of a seemingly inexplicable rift — I learned I wasn’t alone. Research from a U.K. charity suggested that 19 percent of British adults are in families containing one or more estrangements. Across the pond, one U.S. study found that 40 percent of participants had experienced family estrangement, while another discovered that 10 percent of American mothers are currently estranged from at least one adult child. And when my novel, “If Only I Could Tell You,” published in the U.K. earlier this year, I received hundreds of messages from readers telling me they’d always felt ashamed and isolated by their own broken families.

For most of us, these painful estrangements at least have the benefit of taking place in private. Not so for Meghan. For the past two years, she’s had her family conflicts displayed across the front pages of newspapers, discussed on TV shows and debated in magazines, all by people who don’t actually know anything about her situation. For anyone who’s encountered dysfunctional family dynamics, to have remained silent as Meghan has — to have resisted the temptation to tell her side of the story while others are selling theirs — displays incredible self-restraint and remarkable dignity.

There are, of course, other insidious forces at play regarding the criticism Meghan has faced. There’s an undertone of racism to some of the reporting, fueled by right-wing pockets of U.K. society that resent a mixed-raced woman marrying into the royal family. Xenophobia has played a part too: the British do not, after all, have a great track record when it comes to welcoming Americans into our royalty.

And there’s undoubtedly a strong element of misogyny as well: The fact that Meghan has strong opinions — and is not afraid to express them — is unpalatable for some sections of the British establishment. You only have to look at the treatment of many female members of Parliament — ranging from gross condescension to threats of violence — to know that in some areas of British life, strong, opinionated women are still deemed unacceptable. But it is her ongoing familial struggles which have proved click-bait for so many readers, and which of course is now the subject of such a high-profile legal battle.

Over the years, I’ve learned to be robust in the face of others’ criticisms about my own estrangement, but I haven’t had to watch it dissected by the world’s media. Whether or not Meghan Markle wins her legal battle — and the right to protect her privacy around such difficult relationships — remains to be seen. But perhaps, in the meantime, the rest of us could offer a little less judgment and a lot more compassion.

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Dear Abby: Girlfriend worries gal pal is overly attached to attention from her guy

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year. He has several female friends I have met and like very much. However, one of them texts him every day, even while we are together. She also sends Facebook messages and sometimes calls him at work. Sometimes she “drops in” at his home. Abby, this woman is married with a family of her own, but she seems to be obsessed with my boyfriend. I have expressed my concern about her behavior and told my boyfriend that while I trust him completely, I feel she is overly emotionally attached to him, and what she’s doing is disrespectful to our relationship as well as the one she has with her husband and family. He just continues to repeat that there is nothing going on. How can I make him understand that they can still be friends, but he needs to set some boundaries? — FED UP IN NEW YORK

DEAR FED UP: Your boyfriend is allowed to be friends with anyone he wishes. However, because you think the attention he’s receiving from this woman infringes on your time with him, you should say that to him. If you do, perhaps he may tell her to tone it down.

DEAR ABBY: I volunteer at a county no-kill animal shelter. I love doing the work and helping people find a pet that’s right for them, if I can. Every week, people come in looking for a lost pet. “What did he look like?” “How old was she?” And then the burning question, “Was your pet microchipped?” Often — too often — the answer is “No.”

Please remind your readers that if they care about Buddy or Fluffy and love them and consider them family, to PLEASE have them microchipped. Any veterinarian’s office can do it. A county shelter can do it, too. It’s not expensive. It will give people a much better chance of having their friend returned, even if they are far away. — ANIMAL LOVER IN UTAH

DEAR ANIMAL LOVER: I’m glad you wrote. I hope my animal-guardian readers will heed your advice. Furry family members are sometimes stolen, and they often like to roam when they see an opportunity. If pets are microchipped, it increases the odds of them being recovered.

DEAR ABBY: Can you please explain the guidelines for reciprocating invitations? We have invited the “Smiths” to our home three times. Each time they said they were busy and would be for several weeks, so we stopped extending invitations. Then they had us over, and we had a really good time. This week I tried to reciprocate and, again, they are busy. Should I keep trying? Or is this a signal that the Smiths don’t want to come to us for whatever reason? — GOOD TIMES IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR GOOD TIMES: No rule of etiquette requires you to continue trying to coax this couple to your home. After three refusals, it’s reasonable to conclude that — for whatever reason — they prefer to do the entertaining. While some might regard their refusals as a snub, I don’t think you should because they did reach out and invite you over. Because you feel obligated, try inviting them out to dinner, and see if that brings better results.

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Iran raising the stakes

Imagine, now, a retaliation — perhaps for another attack that (even accidentally) causes casualties.
A coalition led by the US would want to calibrate its response. Retaliation would have to be painful for the Iranians. But suggest a taste of worse to come.
Obvious targets would include the command and control structures of the Revolutionary Guard Corps (IRGC), air defenses around the country, weapons storage facilities and strategic communications hubs.
Elements of the nuclear program in Iran would be singled out, but they’re largely in a semi-mothballed state anyway.
The Iranians know this. Anyone planning to attack Iran knows that they know this, and so genuine targets would be hard to find.
Iran will have studied international air campaigns against Saddam Hussein’s Iraq, as well as those against Yugoslavia, Kosovo and Libya. The IRGC and the al Quds Force, its elite overseas wing, will have buried what matters most in mountains and set up decoys.
Iran has been raising the stakes steadily this year as economic sanctions imposed by the US bite hard into its economy. It has been angered by the apparent failure of the European Union and others to circumvent the US sanctions.
The US pulled out of the Joint Comprehensive Plan of Action (JCPOA), agreed with Iran in 2015, which limit its nuclear program in return for lifting sanctions last year.
Trump and other hawks, notably Israel’s Benjamin Netanyahu, argued that the deal was “terrible.” Additionally, they say Iran had dangerously squandered the economic benefits it enjoyed on destabilizing operations, often through proxies in Syria and Yemen.
They also say that Iran has continued to back Hamas in Gaza, and Hezbollah in Lebanon, while developing missile technology that has now been used to spectacular effect.
The US, and privately a number of allies, now want the whole thing renegotiated to put an end to Iran’s missile program and its nuclear ambitions.
Iran says it is willing to resume talks but only if sanctions are lifted.
It is the danger of making war against Iran now that has so raised the specter of even greater horrors if a conflict is postponed.
But any attack on Iran could go from a show of force by the West, to all-out conflagration in moments.
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A mosquito is found LIVING in a man’s nose and had been there for two days

The man from Vietnam, went to see a doctor after hearing a strange buzzing sound in his nose.He also reported itching inside his nostril – hardly surprising given how pesky mosquito bites are.The blood-sucking insect had managed to survive flying into the patient’s nose, despite being buried in snot.

Dr Thuoc, who treated the patient, caught the mosquito on camera.In the clip you can see the insect twitching and buzzing, but unable to move due to the mucus in the patients nose.

 

He used a clamp to pull the mosquito out of the man’s nose and no damage was caused.It’s not uncommon for bugs to be found in all sorts of bizarre places in the body.

Last week we reported on the grim moment a live cockroach was pulled out of a patient’s ear.

Ear nose and throat surgeon Rahmat Omar filmed the moment he looked inside his patients ear to discover if was blocked by a cockroach.

The creepy crawly can be seen wedged in the ear canal as Dr Omar uses tools to remove it.

The bug tries to crawl further into the ear to get away, but eventually Dr Omar is able to grab hold of it and pull it out. CREDIT GOES TO DAILY SUN.

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Breaking news-President Trump to order sanctions against countries that interfere in US elections

US President Donald Trump is expected to sign an executive order on Wednesday that would authorise sanctions against countries or foreigners who try to interfere in American elections, according to report.

“This is not a single solution, but it makes a clear statement by the president that this sort of activity will not be tolerated and will be punished,” the official was quoted as saying.

“President Trump is committed to protecting our nation’s elections from foreign interference and has made it clear that his administration will not tolerate foreign interference in our elections from any nation state or other malicious actor,” the White House National Security Council Spokesman Garrett  ..

According to news reports, the order would put the CIA, the National Security Agency, the Department of Homeland Security and the Office of the Director of National Intelligence in charge of determining whether meddling has taken place.

it would require federal agencies aware of foreign election meddling to relay the information to the Office of the Director of National Intelligence.

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Addiction-People Buying ‘Dumb’ Phones To Kick Their Social Media Addiction

People Buying ‘Dumb’ Phones To Kick Their Social Media Addiction.It’s a sad fact of modern day life that many of us are glued to our phones. But some people are stepping back in time by ditching their smartphones for older, more basic models – so-called dumb phones.

All they do is give owners the ability to make and receive calls, just like a, erm, phone.

global sales of dumb phones went up by 5% last year, while smartphone sales only rose by 2%.

Going with a dumb phone instead allows her to switch off from social media’s regular notifications

Recent research showed that people check their phones every 12 minutes on average. Psychologist Dr Daria Kuss said some smartphones users develop a genuine addiction to the device. She added: ‘They may be afraid to miss out on anything that may be happening on their social media channels being one of the reasons why they use it compulsively and this may lead to symptoms that have been association with addiction like withdrawal, preoccupation and loss of control.’

 

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Jessica Wright puts on seriously busty display as she flaunts ample assets

Jessica Wright puts on seriously busty display as she flaunts ample assets in sexy bikini

SHE’S got one enviable figure and Jessica Wright proudly flaunted her curves as she enjoyed a day at the beach in Malibu.

The 30-year-old – who recently hit out at body shamers in a lengthy Instagram post – showed off her washboard stomach and impressive cleavage in an embellished white bikini.

Jessica looked as stunning as ever as she walked along the sand, with the sizzling two piece highlighting her toned pins and trim waistline.

The former TOWIE beauty wore her light brown locks in tousled waves and covered her eyes with a pair of large sunglasses.

She posed up a storm in a strapless white bikini, with her gazing out to the ocean and flaunting her golden tan.

Despite Jess looking gorgeous, she recently took to social media to slam people who have been criticising her weight. She admitted that she had gained a few pounds, but insisted that she’s still as confident as ever.

She went on: “Are they going to break me?….Absolutely not. I’ve enjoyed my past year and yes i’ll be the first to say I have put weight on, I have an extra couple of lbs I’d like to shift but I’m a normal girl and just like anyone my weight fluctuates especially during certain times of the month.

“I’ve been on holidays, I’ve had tonnes of cheat meals, I’ve had more vinos than normal, met amazing people & I wouldn’t change a thing. Life is for living and I’m doing exactly that.

“What kind of message are we sending out to women and young impressionable girls?!? I am by no means fat, I’m a UK size 10 yet I am being body shamed for putting on weight. #EveryBODYisbeautiful,” Jess finished up by saying.

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Fern Hawkins exposes bottom in saucy bikini:Harry Maguire girlfriend

Harry Maguire and girlfriend Fern Hawkins, who have been dating since June 2011, looked loved up as they frolicked on Barbados’ Nikki Beach.

The Premier League centre-back’s wife-to-be appeared to reveal a little more than she had intended as she took snaps of her beau diving into the sea.

The 25-year-old was seemingly unaware of the mishap as they walked along a wooden pier as they made the most of some R&R together.

Wearing her brunette tresses down and straight, the beauty’s skimpy attire seemingly became a victim of the blustery weather.

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Australian Beauties That Are Too Hot To Handle

Australian Beauties are friendly, unpretentious, very funny and amusing. They are open for communication. Girls are extremely friendly and quiet.

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But it’s not easy to call these ladies the real beauties. Women look beautifully only if they take care of the bodies, but this is rare fact in Australia. The problem of appearance is in their genes. Australia was just an island with a few tribes inhabiting with aboriginal savages.

 

For a during period Australia took to relocate mostly the representatives from UK and Ireland. From this there is a problem with genetics and appearance. With the same problem faced Germany after the struggle for the purity of the nation. Nowadays, it is proved that the mix of the numerous ethnic groups has an amazing favorable effect on the gene pool of the country